5 QUALITIES EVERY SERIOUS GUY LOOKS FOR IN A LADY. NO. 1 WILL SHOCK YOU...

 1) She's God-fearing.

But here’s the thing, if you are a guy seriously looking for a lady who serves God in spirit and in truth, then you wouldn’t want to be the devil’s favorite brother that will be pulling her to the opposite direction. You should, as a matter of marital destiny, be the one who don't only run to churches for crash relationship programs looking for a nice praying sister, but also the one who really knows her Lord and His will for you as the head over His daughter.

Oil and water can never mix. One purpose of marriage is to find true happiness. Happiness comes as a result of finding someone with whom you bond with both spirit, soul and body.

Half of the problems that arise in marriages could have be minimal if spouses marry what they truly want, because that’s what they can give and accept.

So if you are the kind of guy who will have problem with prayer vigils, godly dresses, midweek services, “my pastor says this or that”, to mention a few, then don’t go looking for a sister who had lived her life with those. Look somewhere else.

2) She’s trustworthy.

I hear most serious guys who are in a relationship say; “anytime we finished talking or making plans and conclusions drawn, it’s either I hear it from one of her friends outside or she tells me, '…I had to change my mind 'cos my mum says it’s better that way”. The lists are endless. Trust is an important element that bonds a relationship. Intending spouses must learn to 'get each others back'. So I draw up 3 questions Singles should honestly ask themselves before going into a relationship:

a. How committed I am to the relationship in my life right now?

b. Am I a loyal person with lasting relationship?

c. I’m I able to keep confidential information private?

3) She has a life

A guy who is looking for a serious relationship is looking for someone who has a life filled with fun and adventure because she has created a kind of life that’s defined by passion, purpose pursuits and character, so he wants to be part of that life.

But contrary to the above, nowadays girls wait for a successful guy to start adding flavours to their life. Making them appear obviously, as fashionable liabilities. What they are proud of and carries around is their body. News flash girl, not all men only wants that. To be honest with you, they are more charmed by a beauty with brains.

4) She’s likable by others

Trust me guys, you don’t want to bring in a lady who don't mention anything about her past relationships with some friends from home through school and where you met her. Except she’s from space, then I wouldn’t bother asking why no one ever calls her or you both never stumbled upon anyone at the mall who screams her name. This is beyond her claiming that she's that quiet and a reserved type or that she prefers to keep her past private. 

Marriage is not a hallowed holies of holies where spouses are meant to take on a life of mysteriousness or oath of secrecy.

It’s another realm of building and consolidating relationships and friendships. So ladies, no guy will want to bring in someone who gives a bad impression to people around him. So instead of trying to make yourself so important to him by clinging on to him like leech and isolating him from the world (if you can trust him enough) try entering into his life and allow him yours. Add joy and meaning to his life and everyone around him.

5) She loves him for who he is

I will stress this point again. Marry your friend.  It is already an established fact that you must have known someone before you both eventually realized that you share something in common. It is always someone else that always name two or more persons 'friends'. A friend may not be all that we want them to be, but we definitely like something about them. 

Most times it’s not always about the money in his bank account, or the background he comes out from or their looks.  It's about what he carries in the inside of him that can guarantee your tomorrow joys and happiness that matters. A true friend will always try unknowingly to you to be better just for you, because he or she wants to keep you forever.

As a way of conclusion, no relationships ever works without true and intentional commitment between partners. And commitment is never one sided. In as much as the ladies are targets for a guy's 'marriageable' checklist, so also it is for him to compliment what he wants. A relationship where the partners are in opposite or hypocritical direction will only end in folly and  hurts. 

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